Rushfest Code of Interpersonal Excellence

Unapologetically adopted from Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure, 
Being Excellent is Rushfest policy. See below for more details and resources!

If something happens at a dance that doesn't feel good:
  1. If it feels safe, talk to the person. They may not realize it wasn't cool, and want your feedback.
  2. Find someone on the dance floor you trust, ask if they're comfortable to help you talk to that person, or talk to them for you.
  3. Talk to me! You can always talk to me. I know I have a mic and am running around, but you can always talk to me. Always. 
And if you see something, say something:
See something weird happen to your friend? Check in with them! "Hey, I saw what just happened there. Was that ok?"  

See your friend do something weird, talk to them! "Hey, I saw what just happened and it seemed weird to me. Are you sure they were cool with that?" 

What does consent culture look like on the dance floor?

Consent culture is about showing your partner that you care, and want for them to have a great time dancing with you!

  • Asking, "Would you like to dance?" and showing you're ok if the answer is, "No, thanks!" 
  • Asking role preferences; for example, "Would you like to lead, follow, or switch?"
  • Checking in about injuries or physical limitations, especially those that might not be visible.
  • Checking that lifts, dips, and flourishes are safe, and wanted.  
  • If your dance style involves the possibility for additional closeness, such as close embrace in blues, or "blues swings" in contra, checking in before initiating.  
  • If your partner brings up something that would make them more comfortable during your dance, enthusiastically accommodating them to the best of your ability.  
  • Asking for feedback on your dancing, and being open to making changes.
  • Ask before touching someone else's body in ways that aren't part of the dance, especially when it comes to tattoos, hair, and other body adornments.  
  • If you like to hug your partner at the end of your dance, asking verbally first.  
  • Remember that dancing can be an intimate experience, but it doesn't imply consent for sexual contact on or off the dance floor.  If you're wondering if a dance might lead to something more, check in verbally and clearly with your partner before proceeding.  

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